8 Things you Should Never Say on the Big Day
Understandably brides can be a little bit sensitive leading up to the big day. They’ve poured their heart and soul into preparing for the happiest day of their lives. Bridezilla or not, every detail has been fretted and fussed over so that they can create a wonderful occasion to celebrate their love with all their friends and family.
Therefore, you may want to tread a bit carefully when dealing with the lovely lady herself and make sure you don’t say any of the following things if you want to ensure she has a truly wonderful and perfectly calm day.
I kid you not this was actually said to me on my wedding day by a very close and usually very sensitive friend. Luckily the girl she was talking about was a one-time model and a person I like very much but I can’t pretend it didn’t sting a bit.
No bride wants to feel she’s going to be outshone on her wedding day, however modest and self-assured she may be, so it’s a good idea to keep these thoughts to yourself if you want her to feel like the belle of the ball.
These are sure-fire words to make any bride do exactly the opposite and panic big time. So, try and sort out any issues yourself before taking the problem to the bride, but if you absolutely have to get her involved maybe word it slightly differently in order to ensure she doesn’t have a panic attack just before she heads down the aisle.
We’ve all heard the term Bridezilla but sometimes it’s the bridesmaids that win the award for most dramatic on the lead up to the wedding. It’s understandable, as a bridesmaid you feel very much on display and obviously want to look your absolute best but remember this day is all about the bride. You’ll have your chance to be neurotic on your own wedding day but this is not that day. So, suck it up and wear and do whatever she says. You’ll be happy you did when you ask her to return the favour.
You may think you’re being thoughtful and considerate by showing concern for a frazzled bride but I can tell you right now this kind of comment will not be appreciated. Every bride wants to feel she looks her absolute best and while she may feel tired from all the preparation she doesn’t need to be reminded of that.
While we’ve all had those awkward moments of being sat next to someone we’d really rather not see, it really isn’t fair to stress out the bride by mentioning it just before the wedding or even worse just before the meal.
Hopefully if you’re close to the happy couple they’ll be well aware of any tensions that might exist between guests but if you have been sat in an awkward spot you’re just going to have to brave it out and be perfectly pleasant.
Also, I would advise any bride-to-be not to let anyone in on the seating plan before the big day, you don’t want to spend hours re-arranging every table due to the whims and fancies of every guest.
While this may be true it absolutely shouldn’t be said. And bedsides so what if she is being a complete bridezilla she has every right to be. She’s just arranged the biggest event of her life, which brings together her nearest and dearest with all their quirks and foibles, during which she’s going to make a lifelong commitment to another human being, add to that the pressure to look absolutely perfect and you’ve got yourself a perfect storm! So, give her a little leeway and take all of her craziness in your stride.
If your invitation doesn’t state “And Guest” then it’s pretty safe to say you’re the only one invited. Bringing along a dearest friend, new partner or delightful offspring really isn’t appropriate.
Your bride-to-be friend has spent hours going through RSVP’s, informing caterers and the venue of numbers and painstakingly working out a seating plan. You’re turning up with a possibly delightful but uninvited guest is going to send everyone into a tailspin.
You may have been unlucky in love and you may be factually accurate but this really isn’t the time to mention it. No bride wants to think about anything other than a fairy tale ending on her big day so do her a favour and tell her what she needs to hear from her delighted wedding guests; what a perfect couple they are and how they’re going to live happily ever after.
You may not realise it but as a wedding guest you have an important role to play which is to ensure that the bride and groom feel as supported, loved and happy as possible.
You’ve been invited because they love you and want you to be a part of their special day. Therefore, it’s important you enhance their day not detract from it.
So, no matter how many glass of champagne you have think before you speak and make sure that every word uttered makes them feel as special as they truly are.